For many African immigrants in the United States, success is measured by visible milestones — a good job, a stable home, and the ability to send support back home. These achievements often become symbols of hope for families and proof that the sacrifices of leaving everything familiar behind were worth it. Yet beneath these outward victories, many immigrants quietly carry emotional burdens that rarely make it into conversations.

In a culture that expects strength and resilience, it’s easy to hide the weight of loneliness, financial pressure, workplace stress, and the constant desire to meet expectations on both sides of the ocean. Many people feel they have to appear strong so they don’t worry their families back home, and they don’t want to seem ungrateful to friends who admire their progress. This silence can lead to isolation, making struggles feel heavier and victories feel strangely hollow.

Balancing personal dreams with community obligations can create a tug-of-war that drains mental energy. Some days, the pressure to “make it” feels overwhelming. Other days, the guilt of wanting to rest or slow down becomes its own battle.

But silent struggle doesn’t need to stay silent. Building community, seeking therapy, sharing experiences with trusted friends, and practicing self-compassion are powerful steps toward healing. Your wellbeing is not a luxury — it’s a foundation.

Success abroad should include peace of mind, emotional balance, and the freedom to ask for help. Thriving is not only about what you achieve, but also about how whole you feel along the way.

Panelists
Dr. Adeyemi Fatoki
Dr. Caroline Olaleye
Dr. Kenneth Soyemi

Contributors
Mrs. Dorcas Fatoki
Mr. Funmi Onayemi

Host
Funmi Apantaku-Onayemi

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